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Communication is to a relationship what breathing is to maintaining life. Virginia Satir Copyright © 2007 Allyn and Bacon

STAGES IN RELATIONSHIPS Copyright © 2007 Allyn and Bacon

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Contact Perceptual contact : see, hear, read a message from or perhaps smell the person Form a mental & physical picture : gender,approximate age, beliefs, values, height Interactional Contact is superficial & relatively impersonal Exchange basic information that is preliminary to any more intense Initiate interaction and engage in invintational communication Copyright © 2007 Allyn and Bacon

I. Contact Contact stage is the time of “ First impression” Remind : communication is unrepetable Face to face interaction, physical appearance is important Stage at which you’d begin flirting with a potential romantic partner Copyright © 2007 Allyn and Bacon

Manajemen Kesan Usaha mempengaruhi perilaku orang lain Melalui tindakan,bahasa tubuh, cara berbicara, individu berusaha mempengaruhi persepsi orang atas dirinya Memobilisasikan sumber,gaya, kreativitas untuk menampilkan kesan yg menggambarkan kesan positif Copyright © 2007 Allyn and Bacon

Taktik Manajemen Kesan Mengambil hati (ingratiation) : individu berusaha dipandang positif dengan memuji orang lain/menawarkan bantuan Self Promotion: menunjukkan & mengeluarkan kemampuan dan kompetensi Memberi contoh ( exempification): berusaha dianggap sbg orang yg berdedikasi dan berkinerja kerja diatas rata- rata/melapaui yg diminta oleh tugas Memohon (Symplication): berusaha dianggap sbg seseorang yg memerlukan bantuan karena keterbatasan mereka Intimidasi : individidu berusaha dipandang seseorang yg memiliki kekuatan dan mengancam Copyright © 2007 Allyn and Bacon

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2. INVOLVEMENT Involvement stage of relationships : a sense of mutually, of being connected development experiment & try to learn more about another person A kind of testing goes on Copyright © 2007 Allyn and Bacon

Testing Strategies Directness : ask your partner directly how he or she feels Indirect suggestions : joke about a share future together, touch more intimately or hint that you’re serious about the relationships Public presentations: introduce your partnert as a boy or girl friend, see your partner respond. Third party: you ask mutual friends about your partner’s feelings and intentions Copyright © 2007 Allyn and Bacon

3. Intimacy Stage You commit your self still further to other person and establish a relationships The quantity & quality of your interpersonal exchanges increase (Sommer- Emmers 2004) You also talk more and in greater detail about the relationships (Knobloch, Haunani,& Theis,2006) You also came to share each other’s social network ( Gao & Gudykunts,1995) Copyright © 2007 Allyn and Bacon

Intimacy Stage Commitment Social Bonding Anxiety ( Zimmer,1986) Security Fulfillment Excitement Copyright © 2007 Allyn and Bacon

Stages in Interpersonal Relationships - Intimacy Commitment Social Bonding Anxiety Risk Social Penetration Copyright © 2007 Allyn and Bacon

Teori Penetrasi Sosial : Altman & Taylor Proses meningkatnya keintiman dalam suatu hubungan. Makin komunikator mengenal satu sama lain, makin bersifat antar pribadi Suatu hubungan akan bergerak dalam proses dari tidak akrab/impersonal ke tingkat yg lebih akrab/intim (Atlman & Taylor) Penetrasi sosial mengacu pada : (1) perilaku antar pribadi yg terjadi pada interaksi sosial. (2) proses – proses subyektif yg internal yg mendahului, mendampingi & mengikuti pertukaran sosial Copyright © 2007 Allyn and Bacon

4. Deterioration Dissatisfaction Interpersonal Deterioration Depenetration Copyright © 2007 Allyn and Bacon

Repair Intrapersonal Repair Interpersonal Repair Copyright © 2007 Allyn and Bacon

Intrapersonal repair analyze what when wrong and considers ways of solving your relational difficulties Consider changing you’re your behaviors Evaluate the rewards of your relationship Copyright © 2007 Allyn and Bacon

Interpersonal repairs Talk about the problems in the relationships The changes you wanted to see, what you willing to do & what your partner to do Negotiating a new agreements and news behaviours. Copyright © 2007 Allyn and Bacon

Dissolution Interpersonal Separation Social/Public Separation Copyright © 2007 Allyn and Bacon

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Implications of the Model of Relationships Tool for Talking about Relationships Dynamic Tensions within Stages Suggests the Various Paths Available Movement Usually Gradual Movement Depends on Communication Skills Copyright © 2007 Allyn and Bacon

Relationships and Culture Stage Model is American Culture-Centric Who Chooses? Is it Voluntary? Hard to Break Up? Size of Pool? Permanent or Temporary? Stage Model is Heterosexual Microsoft Image Copyright © 2007 Allyn and Bacon

Relationships and Technology Online Relationships Newsgroups Chat Rooms MOOs Microsoft Image Copyright © 2007 Allyn and Bacon

Relationships and Technology Advantages of Online Relationships Safe Inner Qualities Communicated First Number of People Available is Vast Copyright © 2007 Allyn and Bacon

Relationships and Technology Disadvantages of Online Relationships Can’t See the Person No Face or Voice Possible Deception Can Become All Consuming Microsoft Image Copyright © 2007 Allyn and Bacon